Sexy!?

Sometimes when I hear
people talk about stuff
they find sexy, I just
feel way off base.

It seems I like other
kinds of carrots.

Let's talk about sex, baby!

To honour the return of ”fråga Olle” I’ve decided to dedicate a few posts to sex. This is the first one.

George Michael sang “Sex is natural, sex is fun”, but sex can also be very complicated. The best way to get around some obstacles is, of course, education. The neat thing is that education is exploration.

Rule of the day:
Never do anything sexually that you don’t want to do. It will only make you disconnect and feel cheap.

Homework:
Make a list, consisting of 3 things you like about sex. It could be that sense, a touch or as practical as having sex while doing a backflip. Think back on good sex you’ve had and try and remember what made those moments great.

Inspiration of the day:
Role-playing: Shift the common roles of men and women by her pretending to be the man, touching him as though he was her, and the other way around. It gives great prospective– apart from being sexy-sexy.

Until next time... shag on!

Staring into that abyss of a bright future...

... Speaking of mothers (see my last post), this is a new mother as well as a new baby.

As I walked home from the meeting above I thought about babies and how I'm not a huge fan when it comes to toddlers. This is something few women talk about. I guess cause you're supposed to automaticly love babies as if it's part of our nurturing nature.
In that case I'm sorry to say I'm just not natural.
But don't get me wrong, I do like kids. Actually I prefer the company of almost any 4 year old to most adults. 4 year olds are fun! They have grat visions, thoughts and questions about the world.

But I don't know what to do with kids of minor sizes. There doesn't seem to be much.
Wait for them to poop, pee, yell for food.
Make a stupid face and talk with a funny voice.
Ironicly my lack for love of all those things make me feel like a complete fool.

(none of the participants in this post were hurt during writing or meeting. And of course I'm happy for the love of both the baby and the mother in the picture.)

The figure skating file:

At the pub you usually find a group of guys who's there for beer and soccer on the telly. A couple of months ago I questioned why there's no other sports fan clicks in the bar?

I must confess that I've watched tennis in bars and that's ok with people, but if and when I scream and shout about Federers beautiful forehand people look at me funny.

A couple of months ago I decided to experement with the soccer watchers monopoly of TV's in bars. My plan was to try it out on figure skating - visit a bar with a TV and ask to watch figure skating. Just as people watch soccer.

Last week the european championships finally came. I decided to try to watch the mens final in a bar.
I knew that it would be inpossible to watch it in a real sportsbar like O'learys, they have scheduals on what they show. Luckely we remembered that at one of our regular places they had a TV, so we went there.
There were no other sports on for the night, just some documentary. So we got to watch the final. Not without complaints though - one of the guys in the bar obviously got so provoked by the sparkeling ice skaters that he very loudly had to point that out. I think he thought it reinforced his manhood on some level. The other guys joined in. Everyone apart from one who quietly watched some of it. He was drunk but I swear there were joy in his eyes.

When we left the very sweet waitress were stuck in the bar having to defend changing the channel to figure skating. She told them; "I actually like figure skating!" and we loudly stated that we loved it too, as we thanked for a nice evening and went our way...

Conclusion: I strongly recommend you to grab a friend for the next sporting event you like. Head for the bar and end the soccer monopoly, it ads more diversity, and, if figure skaking - glitter and sparkle to the world!

Gravity

Our country is not slippery when wet, it's slippery when cold.
Today I tried my best to hold on, not to slide off the planet.

When I was a kid and realized there was space on the other side of the clouds I asked my mother why we didn't just go there. Why were we stuck on earth?
The way I'm telling it, it seems I wanted to go there but I didn't. I had learned that we couldn't survive there.
My mother said that gravity keep us here and gravity was some kind of power, so I wondered what if gravity just stoped. She said that then we would pop out and fly into space... but that wouldn't happened, cause there would always be gravity holding us back and here.
I was still afraid.

Later I learned about Newton.
I like the guy. Especially on a filosophical level.

According to Newton there is mass, and mass contains gravity. The bigger the mass to more it attracts other mass. If there wasnt' marcury, earth, mars and a whole bunh of other planets, venus (the closest planet to the sun) would probably slipp into the sun. But us other planets are used as the oposite force of the sun and keeps it on status quo.
The further away one mass is from the other the less is the influence of it's gravity.

Indications of Newtons principal being true on a smaller and more earthy level:
Everyone leaves for places with more sun when they can hence they are drawn to the sun.

Indications of Newtons principal being false on a smaller and more earthy level:
If we were drawn to mass, then we would be attracted and drawn towards heavy and "fat" people since they contain more mass. But we are not. In fact many people are repulsed by it.

On the other hand that might just be us humans being... uhh... us humans. In the animal kindom being heavy is a sign of someone who doesn't have problems finding food . And such a partner would in fact be a great catch.

Klara, färdiga!

Me: How old are you?
Klara: 3 years.
Me: Oh.. That means you won't remeber me the next time I see you.
Klara ponders this for a while. Then she says: No, but I remember you now.

Is Obama messiah?

Today i found this add in the newspaper, it's about a concert to celebrate Obama and change.

Isn't it the wierdest thing? The guy hasn't even begun his time in office...

Questions: Why do we in Sweden arrange a concert for Obama when the thought of having one for any of our own politicians is just plain bizarre?

Warning: Beware of cults of personality!

Music Maestro!

I escaped my studies for a couple of minutes to take this personality test. It's about what my taste in music says about me.
You could do it too... ; )

My Music Personality

When Meeting New People...

What's the first thing you ask, when meeting new people?

Although completly useless, I want to know their name - only to forget it 30 minutes later:
- I'm sorry but I've got altzheimers light, what was your name again?

I'm not the slightest interested in peoples occupation/work. It doesn't say anything about a person. Just look at the people you're working with. Are you just like them?


My first question usually is

(if I'm at a private party)
- So, who do you know here?

(if there's someone I don't know)
- Who's up for some breakfast!?
[That was me attempting to joke]

- So what book are you reading at the moment?


Let me illustrate with a story from real life

Me: So, what do you do? No! Let me re-phrase, I'm not the slightest interested in what you do. What book are you reading?
He: Nothing, I don't read books.
Me: Oh... [silence]
Me: So where do you work?

Needless to say we didn't have many common grounds. But due to the book question we found out early on. And I'm greatful. Otherwise I might still be there listening to some endless chant about his work.

Peoples reading habits and what they read tells a whole lot about what kind of person you're dealing with.

Just think about when you visit peoples homes and look at their books, or lack thereof. What subjects, culture and people are the books about?

There's also always some history behind why a person keeps a book. Perhaps it's a lawbook since the person went to law-school. Or a book about Feng Shui which was a present to the owner from his/her aunt.

If you never ask, how will you ever learn if people have aunts or not?

How to go about dividing the world!

Like Moses, when he divided the sea I'd like to share my best tool for dividing people of the world. It says allot more than most other common tools (sex, age, ethnicity etc.)

There are Coca-Cola people.
There are Pepsi people.
One is not better than the other, it's just a matter of taste.

Good luck with dividing the world

I'm Just A Giga... Girl!

I've been reading a feminist book the last couple of weeks. It came out about 10 years ago and feels a bit of out of date. Very harsh.

Don't get me wrong. I am a very proud feminist. But that doesn't mean that you still can't be femenine.
It's the values, that reguardless of if men and women are different or not, one thing isn't better than the other.

Sometimes I think that the descrimination against women is bigger than racism. Because it's been such a backbone of our culture for such a long time. Long before we even knew there where these black, yellow or purple people we could abuse.

[experiment]
Today I thought about my chances for equal pay according to:
If I were a woman (?) compared to if I where a arabian man called Mohammed Idih?
My guess is that the chance for Mohammed to earn as much as your regular bloke would be about 70-80%, while for a woman somewhere around 30-40%.

But this is only my guess, and I might be dead-wrong.
After all I'm just a woman.

Bird-watching

I guess everyone at one point or another did something really strange in order to attract a mate.

• Being funny


• Having a cool car


• Big boobs


• Being intelligent

We might say that "I don't do what I do to impress anyone", but I'm a firm believer that everything starts there. With trying to impress.

If the result of what impresses people gives you satisfaction in other ways, that's merely a plus.

That's why birds mating rituals sums it all up so nicely.
The bird doesn't have a very abstract plan when he does what he does, he just wants to survive as best he can.
He's not that different from us. It's just that we have more means of methods.

However this bird is really creative about strutting his stuff.




(Now, doesn't he remind you of Usher, Michael or Justin?)

Formula 1

I thought about saying something.
For hours.

Then I came to the conclusion;
there's no point. If it wasn't then, it surely isn't now.
I stopped believing that some things are ment to be.

Things simply are what they are, according to:
Gain minus possible loss equals the effort.

don't forget it.
or please do.


Some goosebumps from Jacques:

Person of the year!

According to The Time I'm "person of the year".

Isn't it nice to finally get some recognition?

Another blonde!

We have a couple of blondes in my class. I can’t tell them apart.
I realised this the other day when one of them walked in and then came the other one and I thought "Weren't you just here?"

I've never really got why being a blonde was such a big thing, excitingly enough I myself is a blonde, but choose not to be because I think it's a very dull colour which erases most personal traits of a face, Blonde to me is the essence of being beige.
And just as it's harder for Asian people to tell one Westerner from the other I've got the same issue with blondes, they all just look blonde.
To me their faces fade.

Tant

Hey, I've never been here before

// Birgitta Heraclitus

p.s. There's just something about ladies who dress up, hitting the streets on Sundays

Dolce Vita

This is the sweet life/dinner with my dear, soon-to-be-used-to-be co-workers.

Much, is how I will miss them..

Words from MySpace - Blackbirds, Malcolm X and freedom fighting

When the movie Malcolm X first came out I somewhat studied American black history and the European colonial era.

For several years after I felt enormous guilt and shame over how the white/European population used and exploited the African (Asian etc.) continent and it's people.

It took me quite some time to realize it wasn't my fault and the only thing that I could do was to try and act as a positive change from here on onwards. I really can't be held responsible for what my ancestors did.

15 years ago I idealized Malcolm X, but now as I'm (finally) reading his biography I find myself getting very angry with him and the opinions he had in fact wasn't so well thought through as I first believed.

For example, I as a feminist am deeply offended by the polarisation of black vs. whites that Malcolm makes. All of the injustices that's been done to blacks have equally been done to women all over the world AND Malcolm admits himself (without any remorse) to frequently hitting a woman in his biography.

I agree in the observation and the fight for black rights, but if you are a freedom fighter of some calibre you can't fight for just one cause, against one reign power, you have to be sensitive towards who and how you yourself might be exploiting and dominating someone else. Otherwise all the things you stand for might seem very, very hollow.

Therefore the first rule of freedom fighting is: you can not fight for equality for one without making it a general fight for everyone rights (even though you might focus primarily on one issue.)

Why? The world is not free, and I am not free but I long for you to be free even if I don't necessarily agree with you in your political opinions or am like you in race, sexual orientation or religious believes, as that's the way I want you to see, hear and respect me.

We humans are never as free as our most constrained sister or brother.

But back to Malcolm, I must grant him that it takes a great man to admit his mistake.

Here's another has-been at her very best:

Here's a link to what everyone keeps talking about – UNITED NATIONS UNIVERSAL DECLARATION OF HUMAN RIGHTS

Words from MySpace - How to win a fight!

Instuctions:

1. Learn how to speak Frensh.This way no one will get what you're trying to say which enhances your're chances to get into a fight in the first place.
2. Be blue, (like the aliens in that "I'm blue, la-da-di-da-da-daa"-song or any of the smurfs).
3. Become a wizard and learn how to perform various magical trix.
4. Win the fight.

Example:

Words from MySpace - Ding-ding!

We talked about idealism, confinement, conformity, social structure and power. Living according to your beleifs or surrendering to the sometimes harsh reality.

It's interesting - as you get to know people you learn new things about yourself. Just as that poem (see bellow).
I sometimes defend my actions - when I "bend" the rules by; at least I know that I'm violating them. Most of the time I know the right way to act, but sometimes I choose to act in an other way. Just to stir the pot, amuse myself or to acknowledge the rule at hand (because I find it stupid). Doesn't mean I'm really right or wrong. As a friend says - Always remeber that there are all kinds. (which is one of the insightful things ever to come out of his mouth.)

In sociology there's a theory about systems (social) as school, work etc. That the first thing people do when the find themselfs part of such - they learn all what's right and allowed, second, they learn how to bend the rules.

I think you are drawn to those people who in some ways share traits in yourself that you like, just as you can't stand people who obtain your bad ways. (aren't they just obnocious?)

And that's John Donne was right on target, however a bit cheasy when he wrote:

No man is an island,
Entire of itself.
Each is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manner of thine own
Or of thine friend's were.
Each man's death diminishes me,
For I am involved in mankind.
Therefore, send not to know
For whom the bell tolls,
It tolls for thee.

That's why things like Britney makes me feel embarrassed too.

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